If you have to force it, be cautious! The answer should come to you naturally! You are considering radical steps! And that is okay if you are a radical. But if you are afraid that the actions you take will cause you to be ostracised, then you have two choices! You can do it anyway and simply be okay with the fact that you were true to yourself and accept responsibility for your actions. Or you can do something that goes against the grain of who you feel you are out of a desire to appease someone else! Which of those feels most natural to you?
Tithi: Shukla Shashthi